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Why I Home-school

It’s not possible for me to outline every single reason I chose to home-school my kids in one blog post. Maybe I’ll get into other reasons another time, as time and want-to permit. I realize that not everyone will share my ideas on home-schooling and there are plenty of parents who I respect and love who send their kids to school. I’m not saying they’re bad parents, I’m simply stating my reasons from my point of view, without pointing fingers at anyone else.

In the last few months, I’ve been questioned as to why I still home-school my children. These questions range from curious to accusatory, everything from ‘isn’t our education system good enough for you’ to insulting me as a teacher and stating that my kids aren’t getting a ‘proper’ education. Despite the fact that I get far more comments about how good my kids do in school and encouragement to keep doing what I’m doing, the accusations, especially the hurtful ones, do sting.

One reason I home-school my kids is because I have a pretty high standard when it comes to their moral development and character training. Because I’m not only their teacher, but their educator and full-time childcare helper, I do my best to instill those morals and training in any kids I care for. I’ve had times when I was only educating my kids, other times I’ve had anywhere from 3-6 other kids in my care. Right now I’m teaching 5 kids in 4 different grades, which, even though challenging is great fun for me. However, I’m not a traditional teacher, my hours go beyond the ‘school’ hours, and that’s when the ‘educator’ takes over. I’m not perfect, I mess up all the time, but I do my best. Kids learn most from example and how better to instill what I want all the kids to become than by living what I believe? Sending my kids to someone ‘else’ whom I hardly know who has to follow a curriculum I’m vaguely aware of, teaching from textbooks with content I don’t agree with would not only be negligent on my part, but go against who I am completely.

When I was 14, I decided I wanted to be an educator, in large part because I wanted to be able to be with my kids and teach them when the time came. I found I loved being with kids so it wasn’t long before I was totally loving my job. When I did start having my own kids, I was so thankful for the training I had and I’m still grateful to my mentors and those who continue to help me in my life’s calling. Those same mentors taught me the importance of not just baby-sitting, but getting to know the kids individually. Every child is different and not only deals with learning differently, but with life in unique ways. Where in a school setting with large groups of kids can the teachers afford to get to know each child individually?

Because I chose to home-school, I have more of a say in who my kids are around. I want them to have role-models and friends who will inspire them to live a Godly life. I know I can’t shelter them and that’s not my purpose. I simply want to have a say in who my kids hang out with. It is possible to prepare them for life through those who are good examples, I feel.

Following is an article that a friend of mine posted on her FB wall today. It was very hard for me to read, emotions ranging from anger to just wanting to cry! It’s long, but it’s one more example or reason if you will, of why I chose to home-school.

Death education at Columbine High

By Dr. Samuel L. Blumenfeld

Last weekend, the seniors at Columbine High School graduated. They tossed their caps into the air, celebrating their liberation from twelve years of public education where they wer…e indoctrinated in the system’s moral and academic chaos and were undoubtedly glad to come out of it alive. Some of their classmates did not. They remembered those who did not, omitting the names of the two perpetrators of the massacre who were also supposed to graduate that weekend. Instead, those two chose death.

Which brings us to the subject of death education. Death education has been a part of the progressive curriculum in virtually every public school in America for at least the last fifteen years. Yet no one in the establishment, let alone the U.S. Department of Education, has sought to find out what death education is doing to the minds and souls of the millions of children who are subjected to it. But we do have plenty of anecdotal information on hand.

For example, back in 1985, Tara Becker, a student from Columbine High, went to a pro-family conference in Colorado to tell the attendees about death education at the school and the effect it had on her. Jayne Schindler, who heard Tara’s testimony, reported:

Tara brought with her a booklet she had helped to compile for one of her school classes. This booklet was called “Masquerade” and was full of subliminal pictures and prose. Tara explained how she had been taught to use the hidden, double meaning, subliminals and how she had focused so much of her time and attention on death that she, herself, had tried to commit suicide.

A video was made of Tara’s testimony and distributed nationwide by Eagle Forum. The tape was aired on British television, and The Atlantic Monthly did a feature story based on it. The producers at 20/20 saw the video and decided to do a segment on death education which was aired in 1990. I remember that video very well because I was called by the free-lance writer who was working on the story and sent her some of the newsletters I had written on the subject.

Schindler writes, “Tara explained that the subject of death was integrated into many of the courses at her high school. She said that death was made to look glamorous, that living was hard, and that reincarnation would solve their problems. Students were told that they would always return to a much better life form. They would return to the ‘Oversoul’ and become like God.

“After one of the students at her school committed suicide, a ‘suicide talking day’ was held and every class was to talk about death. Class assignments were for students to write their own obituaries and suicide notes. They were told to trust their own judgment in choosing whether to live or die.”

So Tara began to think of suicide as a means of solving some of her problems. She thought of liberating her spirit from enslavement to her body. She says she also wanted to die to help relieve the planet of overpopulation. These were a few of the crazy thoughts put into her head by her “educators.” God knows what kind of equally crazy thoughts were put into the heads of the two killers at Columbine.

Fortunately, Tara survived death education at Columbine High and lived to talk about it. But thousands of students have committed suicide all across America and no one in Washington has even bothered to hold a hearing on the subject. It is now assumed that teenage suicide is as natural as burgers and fries. It’s just one of those things that teenagers now do in America.

But what seems to be happening as death education becomes more and more sophisticated is that many of these teenagers with the suicidal urge now want to take some of their teachers and classmates with them. After all, reincarnation is an equal opportunity concept. It’s for everybody.

How long has this been going on? Here are some excerpts from an article entitled “Development Opportunities for Teachers of Death Education” published in “The Clearing House” in May 1989, ten years ago:

This article reaffirms the need for death education and offers some methods for improving pedagogical skills of teachers.

A task force appointed by the president of the Association for Death Education and Counseling … is charged to (1) carry out a study of the current state of death education in U.S. schools, (2) make recommendations for the ideal K-12 curriculum in death education, and (3) make recommendations for minimal knowledge, skills, and attitudes that teachers should possess before attempting to teach death education to children. …

Although we can assume that most pedagogical efforts are sound, recent examples have surfaced, depicting miseducation and ill handling of attempts to address dimensions of dying and death. Consider the following items from the Dallas Morning Press:

“Some have blamed death education classes for the suicides of two students who attended courses in Illinois and Missouri. Other students have suffered traumatic reactions. Minimally trained or untrained teachers have asked first graders to make model coffins out of shoe boxes; other students have been instructed to sit in coffins, measure themselves for caskets, list 10 ways of dying (including violent death), attend an embalming and touch an undraped corpse.”

Certainly mistakes do occur in many instructional settings and some minimally trained teachers may, on occasion, handle situations inappropriately. But let us hope that the above examples are rare and that effective death education is the norm in our schools throughout America.

There you have it. A plea made ten years ago for “effective death education,” whatever that is. What is “effective” death education? Can the educators tell us? What about simply eliminating death education? But that won’t happen, because if we did, we’d have to get rid of values clarification, sensitivity training, transcendental meditation, out-of-body experience, magic circles, outcome based education, drug ed, sex ed, suicide ed, and now massacre ed.

Incidentally, the National Education Association has played an active role in promoting death education. It sponsored the writing and publication of “Death and Dying Education” by Prof. Richard O. Ulin of the University of Massachusetts. The book, written in 1978, includes an 18-week syllabus for the death educator.

Dr. R. J. Rushdoony has written, “Humanistic education is the institutionalized love of death.” Meanwhile, the best the schools and President Clinton can offer the kids is grief counseling and conflict resolution by trained counselors who will have a lot more work to do in the future.


4 thoughts on “Why I Home-school”

  1. I have a “blended” family. First two children are public schooled and the youngest is home schooled.
    First son spent three years in prison – cocaine trafficking which he learned in public school! One of the finest High Schools in North Carolina.
    Middle daughter excelled in math/engineering skills struggles to read the tests necessary for her advancement.
    Youngest no brighter that the first two will graduate college this summer at 19 years of age.
    Would that we had home schooled the first two.
    We are better parents now that we have home schooled. Last daughter is better “socialized”, reads better, math skills better, interpersonal skills are better and the list could go on because we home schooled.
    I love all three. I am ashamed that I did not see and realize earlier what was happening to my first two. KEEP ON TRACK. The reward will be great.
    In Christ
    Dennis McCutcheon

    1. Thanks for your observations, I’m really sorry to hear about your older children. I’m so thankful I had the opportunity and the option of home-schooling my kids. Keep praying for your kids, it’s never too late for them to come around.

  2. Many and similar are my reasons for homeschooling. Sometimes I wonder if I have done a good job, I cave under the pressure and obligations, pressures of the society I live in. I wonder, since the standard is so high in my country of residence, are my kids up to par, but when I spend 2-3 hours with my 14 year old daughter heart-to-heart sharing explaining to her that the ‘battles’ she goes through are normal for that age, when she tells me I am her role model and her best friend and confidant I realize I must have done something right. Her friends do not share with their parents such intimate details, they confide in their friends who are as much if not even more confused about life and what is going on around them. Homeschooling is not just academics, which are here now and maybe gone tomorrow (especially in a teenage flippant state of mind), it is bonding, loving, guiding our children through some of the most turbulent times in their lives, helping them draw the right conclusions. I am decided to see it through, even though I have so many more obligations and much more work to do. I think that when other people start noticing that our children are different and are unable to explain why, they seem to them so smart and mature and they wonder at it, it is a reaffirmation that I have done something right at least with some of them.

    1. Terry, I agree wholeheartedly! If you take into consideration the article I posted, can you imagine a bunch of already turbulent teenagers talking about death that way? Being there with my kids and for my kids through their school experience means more open communication on both sides. I feel, and I’ve been told this several times that my kids are ahead of their counterparts in the things they understand, their reasoning skills, etc.
      Good for you for continuing with your home-schooling regardless of what anyone may say! Keep up the good work!

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